cloistered away


an animal petting party
July 30, 2008, 2:36 pm
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As aforementioned, we went to Austin last weekend to celebrate our niece/cousin Ella’s third birthday (early — since they’re moving). By no understatement, the party was crazy. The kids loved it (aside from the little girl who had her finger bitten by one of the pigs). Where else can you get away with holding, feeding, even throwing little animals? I wish I had video. Scott actually has video of Ella slinging bunnies. Afterward, we stayed and played at the pool along with the Carruths. Anyway, here are some pictures.




more tales to boost your self-esteem
July 27, 2008, 1:05 pm
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Nothing makes me feel more vulnerably fragile than being pregnant. This internal process of building a new person takes my soda-like hormones and shakes them up, leaving me ready to explode emotion onto whomever is fortunate enough to pop the lid. So, don’t get too close — at least for the next month anyway. I should start to balance out after that. Generally, I’m fairly reserved emotionally (whether I like it or not). So, imagine the sense of wayward exhaustion knowing that right now, I’m like an emotive jack-in-the-box. Yesterday, we spent the day in Austin with Scott and Diana (who are about to move to Morocco), I was on the verge of tears all day. I’ll see them again before they leave (we’re actually spending a whole week with them next week), but being in their house for the last time. . . that’s right, tears. Granted, a party involving 25-30 kids and free-roaming (within a fenced area) pigs, goats, chickens, and bunnies were involved as well — that was enough to make any grown person want to cry (the kids, on the other hand, loved it). But this morning, I threw the computer keyboard (sorry Mark).  Blythe spilled my glass of water on the desk, so naturally I reacted like a 5 ft. two-year-old, and in frustration threw it on the ground, rather than simply moving it out of the way to clean up. My abrupt actions startled myself and Blythe, who could only stare at me wide-eyed as if to say, “who are you? and where is my mom?” She started crying. So did I. Fortunately, the boys were in the other room, or Liam might have suggested that I go to time-out (which I desperately needed).

I’ll post pictures from the party yesterday later.



simple math
July 22, 2008, 8:55 pm
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I have been followed by the lingering smell of urine all day today. It seems that no matter where I traverse within my home or car, it wafts sweet, stinky mockery in my face, “I will not be trained.” Burke, while trained to poop in the toilet for months, can only manage to “remember” to pee in the toilet on occassion. Does he even care? It’s certainly up for debate as I watch him playing in some other imaginative world (most likely a galaxy far, far away), standing in the middle of his bedroom with pee dribbling down his leg into a small pool on the floor. Liam’s yelling, “Burke! You’re peeing!” I’m yelling, “Burke! Get to the toilet!” But, he just stands there, staring at us with shock. I’m not sure he’s entirely to blame. I haven’t exactly been the iconic potty trainer: inconsistent at best. It’s another one of those logistical parenting things that I can’t quite master — along with brushing teeth (forget even mentioning the dentist — sorry John), planning meals (even at times, grocery shopping), and “chores.” So, I do it when I think about it (which, I figure, is better than never). We do bathe regularly. Although Mark and I use that crystal deodorant, which doesn’t actually deodorize all that well. Throw in the morning “work-outs” we’ve been doing with Kristen and Tim, and our living room smells like a boys locker room. Basically, if our present household scent were a math equation it would look something like this:

urine + bad breath + rotting potatoes in the pantry + old, sweaty gym shorts + mrs. meyer’s counter spray = our home today (God, bless Mrs. Meyer’s today)

Apparently, I’ve treated numbers with the same laissez-faire attitude around our home. We don’t really implement them into our time with the kids with the same consistency that we do language. Again, I just don’t think about it, until we have moments in the car when Liam asks, “how long will it take to get there?” “an hour and a half,” I reply. “Oh, so that’s about 3 hours then?”  Or while our good friend, Latonya, is playing hide-and-seek with the kids, I overhear Burke counting  ”seventeen, eighteen, nineteen, eleven-teen” and Liam repeatedly skipping the numbers fifteen and seventeen on his way to twenty. Uh-oh.



a preemptive defense
July 18, 2008, 9:05 am
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“[Mom] also drove my sisters and myself crazy by folding the most personal moments of our childhood lives into her talks as further illustrations of God’s hand on us, or to make points about how to raise a family.”

-Frank Schaeffer, Crazy for God

 

When I read this, a tinge of worry hit me wondering if I might hear a similar thing one day. Things like, “mom, how could you? That’s so embarrassing,” echoed through my head. And although I started this blog as a way to record these swiftly passing years, realizing that these funny moments, questions, and exploratory days are evolving faster into blurred memories than I care to admit, I also recognize that at least at this point, what I write and how I write my kids will be how they, not just I, remember their early selves. I hope that these written encouters will somehow give my kids privy to who they really are, long after the rest of the world has bombarded them with all that they’re “supposed to be.” 

Easy for anyone to see, our life is far from a prime time reality show or some other limelight family, so rather than using this space to piously display ourselves as models of how things/children/home/parents ought to be, I offer these public glimpses into our home in effort to authentically share the good and bad alike.  Of course, the good is always more palatable for the ego. I imagine that  Liam will laugh one day to read about recently questioning me, “Mom, is the penis the leader of the private parts?” Or at some point hearing Burke’s full body chuckle when he reads about approaching me and Mark separately (before we found out we were pregnant) to ask if we could trade Blythe in for a new baby because “this girl scratches and bites.”

But maybe they won’t. Maybe in some unintentional way on my part, they will feel exposed, exploited, or embarrassed. If that’s the case, let me take note here to tell them, ”I’m sorry.” (It’s not the first time, and I’m sure it won’t be the last.)  But, knowing each of your love for laughter and stories now, I’m anticipating laughter.



it’s a cruel, cruel summer
July 16, 2008, 8:10 am
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I’m going to reengage and confess that I’ve been a b*tch this last week. We all have — well, carried some form of the attitude anyway. Or at least it’s felt that way. I want to blame (what’s confession without blame?) the surmounting irritability on the suffocating heat combined with our 1950s household windows –  the ones you can actually feel breezes through and participate in whispered conversation on separate sides of when they’re closed. Our AC fights to hover near 80 during the days. For the last few days I’ve been listening to my kids whine and bicker and “me first” toward one another and thinking “what the hell has happened here?” as I fill up our baby plastic pool (that’s big enough for the three of them to sit in, opposed to swim in) so they can play outside. We’ve continued our normal adventures outside of the home, but nothing has seemed to appease these self-sufficing-with-total-disregard-for-others attitudes. Then the clouds came and along with it, the rain. Relief. Rest. Epiphany: I’ve been just as whiny and self-focused as my children. Certainly not one of my finer moments (by “moments” I mean weeks). I’ve been impatient and hard, quickly recognizing and speaking to all their “needs for improvement” rather than commending their accomplishments, obedience, and kindness (no matter how sporadic they’ve been lately). I’m glad that’s not how the Lord deals with us.

So, I thought on a positive note, I’d share a picture of some of the recycled art that the boys have produced lately. (From left to right): Luke Skywalker with his light saber on a skyscraper, a robot helmet, and a tank). They also have piles of paintings and drawings not pictured. Blythe’s art, also not pictured, has mostly involved a variation of mediums (chalk, watercolors, crayons) on my walls. Thus far, I think her favorite color is pink.



mini-reads
July 8, 2008, 3:56 pm
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So in this all-knowing-self-help-reference-book age of parenting, most of us realize how valuable it is to read to our kids and for our kids to spend time “reading” to themselves. But, in the overwhelming market of children’s literature, it can take a while to find what you want or anything new your kids (and of course yourself) might enjoy. So, I thought I would share some things that our kids are reading and enjoying — as are we. If any of you have any recommendations of your own, I would love to hear them. 

 

Enticing to all of my children because of Eric Carle’s fabulously bright animal art, but this book also includes poems (written by various poets) about each depicted animal.

 

 

Ideal for toddler wiggles. I often read this to Blythe while we stand, so that she can perform all the “activities.” Each of my children has loved this book (along with Brown Bear, Brown Bear, What Do You See? & Polar Bear, Polar Bear, What Do You Hear?).

 

A classic. The kids love the pictures and silly poems. Obviously they miss out on Silverstein’s frequent play on words.

 

The boys love looking through this book’s detailed pictures. As the title says, it follows one street through history giving a broad picture of the evolution of society. Along this same line, they also love the World History Encyclopedia: New Millennium Edition (obviously slightly outdated, but works for the other 4 million year it covers). Beware of apparently small questions that may be impossible to explain to preschoolers with limited terms and knowledge of history, i.e. “Mom, what’s fascism?” or “What happened in World War II?” 

 

Full of bright, cheerful pictures, this book introduces the characters and mini-stories in the Bible, but intertwines them together revealing the bigger picture of the Bible: Christ. 

 

(No Picture) A Child’s Swiss Family Robinson by Joan Marlow Todd

I just started reading this to the boys, as an alternative to the original. They love it. The chapters are manageable for their ages (at about 15-20 paragraphs) and pictures every other page or so.



cuatro.
July 3, 2008, 2:30 pm
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we’re not gonna take it
July 2, 2008, 12:58 pm
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Today the boys decided to have their “boy’s club” again and locked Blythe out of their room: “she’s always jacking with [their] stuff.” Normally, I don’t allow it, but today they were playing “climbing up and sliding down” game (Chutes & Ladders).  Blythe would most certainly disrupt them, so I allowed the door to remain shut. Blythe, apparently having some rendition of Twisted Sister in her head, decidedly picked up Bear –that’s Liam’s bear, the one that he so creatively named Bear, the one that he’s slept with, rubbing the tag (appropriately located on the Bear’s butt) against his upper lip for the past 3 1/2 years– and plunged him to his (hopeful) death in my toilet. Watch out boys. Fortunately, the toilet was empty and recently cleaned, so I was able to resuscitate Bear and wash him conveniently with the laundry. 

While at the beach, Mark received a copy of Crazy for God by Frank Schaeffer (son of the infamous Francis and Edith Schaeffer). I’ve almost finished reading it and am loving it — maybe it’s due to the break in a fantastical marathon that I’ve recently been on of C.S. Lewis’ myth ‘Til We Have Faces and Prince Caspian followed by Madeleine L’Engle’s A Wrinke in Time. (All of which I heartily recommend for varying reasons, even if only a swing back to childhood.) Nevertheless, this book is a memoir of Frank Schaeffer’s life (and as he lets you know early on, he uses the term “memoir” loosely). Likewise it’s a provocative and insightful commentary on religion, “professional Christianity,” American culture, parenthood, and the human soul wrestling against pride/egoism, even when masked in religious overtones. Schaeffer’s authenticity wrapped up in his excellent story-telling ability introduces an entirely different dimension to the L’Abri culture — and one of the reasons he received so much grief for writing it. He forfeits the altruistic tendencies of religious writing to pull back the curtain of his life (and subsequently all those intimately involved, including major Christian evangelists). It’s caused me to laugh and cry, and of course speculate/self-evaluate. While I could understand an uprising of bitter sentiment toward Schaeffer  for demeaning good things, immaturely taking things for granted, or whatever other million reasons you’ll discover upon reading the book, it actually made me appreciate him, his parents and L’Abri all the more. They’re real. God-loving people suckered by lies the same way we are. Refreshing. Read it.